It’s them not me!

A few years ago while in a banking hall, a middle-aged man staggered in. Full of stench, apparently from excessive alcohol consumption, his first question was ‘what is smelling here’

What else could possibly be smelling! I muted to myself.

A sight to behold and be disturbed, several eyes were on him as he completed his transaction and approached the main entrance of the branch. It was a hallelujah moment, when the automatic door of the banking hall eventually shut behind him. You could almost hear simultaneous breathes of sigh of relief from most people that were still around.

As you can imagine, it took several minutes of spraying strong air fresheners and odor neutralizers to normalize the air quality afterwards.

Like this middle-aged man, there are individuals who regularly look outside of themselves for what is going wrong with them. To these group of people, everything and everyone but themselves is the reason for their troubles.

Rather than own up to their wrong decisions and humbly retrace their steps, there are men and women who allow their ego and ignorance run their life out of beauty. While constantly refusing to take responsibilities for their life and actions, they love the blame game. They are saints and others around them are sinners. They wait for everyone and everything else to change but themselves.

‘They just don’t like me’, ‘they are all coming back to apologize to me’, ‘I’m gonna surprise them big time’. These are some of their common verbiages.

For several unrelated persons to be saying or acting the same ‘bad’ way towards an individual is a sign that that individual may actually have a bad character. If there is correlation, it may mean there is confirmation.

People who don’t know each other would not just gather to start acting funny and unfriendly towards a person; more often than not, that person may just be full of stench and that is why he/she has suddenly become the center of attention.

With individuality come responsibility; Taking ownership of one’s situation and regularly engaging in self-assessments that ultimately drive real transformation is key to living a purposeful life.

It's time to stop passing the buck.

#it’s not them.